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nordicnicki
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« on: October 17, 2008, 12:03:50 PM » |
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what the hell do you do with an elevn year old who is so obviously not right in the head?i am actually scared of my own daughter!
we argue or should i say she does then it escalates into her being very abusive and aggresive towards me and sometimes her brother....i have given up shouting as it makes her angrier,if i smack she smacks back,so i give up with that and she has noe treats or activities that she enjoys for me to ground her from,so thats out of the window.
last night i calmly asked if she would please ppick up her things from around the house,she swore and shouted at me,so then i asked her to stop being so nasty....the response was her pulling a knife out on me and threatening to stab me repeadetly with it.........i was scared and actually worried that she just may do it,this has happened a couple of times,she has councilling for tourettes and adhd,but it falls on deaf ears with her.........what the hell should i do with her?
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bound and tied in emotion but still we fly.losing all my reason cause theres nothing left to blame.
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Joe Buck
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« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2008, 05:52:05 PM » |
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nicki...my heart totally goes out to you...When you mentioned the knife situation...not good/big sign...you have to gather all the resources you have & then some...to help you. You can't handle this alone. From family, friends, community, professionals...any good resources will help. A first line suggestion... get the person...that your daughter respects & has a solid relationship with...to sit down & talk heart to heart with your daughter...to be a mediator & get the lines of communication open. Hopefully that person can get some answers...& you all get a clearer path to follow.
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The Most I Can Do For My Friend
... Is Simply To Be His Friend—Thoreau
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Phyllis
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« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2008, 06:11:18 PM » |
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in one word... therapy. I know easier said than done, especially since your experience with docs have been crap. But you need to get a medical professional involved in my opinion.
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« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2008, 07:04:45 PM » |
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This sounds very very serious, Nicki. Did this just happen all at once, or has it been escalating for awhile? Yeah, I would definitley drag her sassy butt to the ER next time that happens. Ya'll don't call them ER's (Emergency Rooms), but you know what I mean, I'm sure. She needs immediate help from a real doctor. I don't think that therapy is going to help her much until she calms down. Maybe she needs some meds. 11? Wow...Is she taking any meds for ADD or ADHD? I've heard that some of the meds that they give for those disorders can sometimes have violent side effects? Something has to have triggered this. Think about it and see what you come up with. Anything different?
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Brian
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« Reply #4 on: October 20, 2008, 07:49:40 AM » |
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Therapy, counseling, and hospitalization are all options. However, if she's pulling a knife and threatening to hurt you, I would treat it the same as any other person threatening to do you harm: call the police and have her arrested. It might be a necessary first step to getting some doctor to recognize that she needs help.
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donna14
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« Reply #5 on: October 20, 2008, 07:59:36 AM » |
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I agree with Brian. You have to take this seriously. If a man pulled a knife on you, you would call the police. I am a member of a website that deals with kids that have pediatric bp. Is it possible that she is bp? I have talked with several parents on that site that have had your exact problem. Basically they all ended up doing the same thing. They called the police. Their kids were put on psych holds and then got the help they needed. Kids are very impulsive and if she is threatening you with a knife, you need to take it very seriously. I know if Syd threatened me with a knife (15 yo daughter with pediatric onset bp) I would call the police and have her in the hospital. Sounds like your kid is crying out for help.
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Vik
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« Reply #6 on: October 21, 2008, 07:35:28 PM » |
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Sounds serious. I probably would've disarmed her restrained her then called the cops. You shouldn't be living in fear of your own kid. Judging from your other post about your past it sounds like she has some major issues from that and is acting out. That's my 2 cents.
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nordicnicki
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« Reply #7 on: October 22, 2008, 02:43:19 AM » |
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i spoke to my doc about my daughter and he said she definately needs proffessional help,when i tried to get it for her they said give her an anger book to write stuff down in.....as if that wasnt tried a long time ago...derr.
the councillors reckon she is angry over my illness,but i agree with vik i think that she has long term issues before she knew i was ill,or it could be genetic as she is very much like her father(sad to say)
i now have to wait two weeks for her to be seen and assesd as to what is done next with her
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bound and tied in emotion but still we fly.losing all my reason cause theres nothing left to blame.
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Phyllis
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« Reply #8 on: October 22, 2008, 06:55:48 AM » |
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well, if you don't mind, can you keep us posted?
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