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« Reply #30 on: June 30, 2009, 02:47:42 AM » |
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Sorry I'm a little late but I agree with the others and I think you're doing the right thing. Your spouse needs to prove his stability before he can be trusted with your children. I don't say that just because he's a man, I would be saying the same thing if it were the other way around. You've been very brave, a devoted wife and a very responsible parent, if you can just be strong for a little longer things are bound to work out ok, you have your family to help out and support you which is great, and you never know, maybe your husband will turn things around in the future. Good luck to you and well done for handling things thus far.
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« Reply #31 on: July 07, 2009, 06:20:04 AM » |
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another update... i've been not living with hubby for the past 2-3 weeks now... we are back to talking terms, he takes baby once in a while (with supervision - the maid HAS to go with him not alone) and we catch a movie once in a while... but i dont stay over... initially he was pushing me and asking me when am i coming back, i told him, we (my son and me) will come back once i feel comfortable being in the same place as him.. now he's not pushing anymore... i think this is helping him deal with his condition a bit more and understand his responsibilties a little bit.. earlier i would do his stuff as well as deal with my work, and my own issues...
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« Reply #32 on: July 07, 2009, 08:01:08 AM » |
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sounds like things are moving along in a positive way, even though it may be difficult.
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« Reply #33 on: July 23, 2009, 09:00:07 AM » |
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I think it's important for him to not feel hopeless so I'm glad that you've given him the hope that if he takes care of himself, it is possible to reconcile, even if you feel that it won't happen. Good Luck girl, you are strong.
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Brian
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« Reply #34 on: September 17, 2009, 12:43:24 PM » |
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I don't have much to add to this discussion other than to say that I still don't have the first clue how to survive in a bipolar marriage.
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« Reply #35 on: October 09, 2009, 02:00:34 AM » |
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you're surviving, Brian....life ain't m&m's and oreos, but you are surviving
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« Reply #36 on: October 13, 2009, 10:58:16 PM » |
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Hi Brian, the main thing is do not give up hope. There is a loving person in there, even though sometimes you cant see it. I know its hard, but it gets better.. Just love your partner no matter what  |
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« Reply #37 on: October 14, 2009, 07:53:42 PM » |
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Hope people don't mind me jumping in but I had to say something.
Brian, I'm in a marriage where my wife has only in the last few years realised my condition and to this day its a learning curve. No matter how much we sit down and talk there are days where I'm severe and even a saint couldn't deal with it. The secret though to why we are still together even with my extreme episodes is due to communication before and after. Yes we both make mistakes, for example my wife will take what I say in one of my moments as being what I actually mean and not what it is. There is no perfect solution to anything, but I firmly believe that simply talking and laying down a good set of ground rules works wonders.
Just talk, make sure there are no ill feelings and focus on the most important thing, maintaining a healthy you. Sounds selfish but a healthy you means you can focus on a healthy relationship.
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Phyllis
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« Reply #38 on: October 15, 2009, 06:43:30 AM » |
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For those that don't know, Brian is my husband, and, by the by, I think he does a good job. I dunno what he is talking about! LOL
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« Reply #39 on: October 15, 2009, 02:38:29 PM » |
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« Reply #40 on: October 15, 2009, 03:25:20 PM » |
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no worries, you didn't know. There are a lot of new people here that don't know who Brian is.
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« Reply #41 on: October 16, 2009, 07:05:52 AM » |
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Every day is a learning experience.
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