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« on: March 08, 2009, 09:18:58 AM » |
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I am faced with sooo many decisions that it isn't even funny anymore
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Phyllis
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« Reply #1 on: March 08, 2009, 09:42:50 AM » |
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Would it be possible to go to marriage counseling?
Also, talk to your OB about you being BP - if you feel you need the meds, it is possible to be on meds and have a safe pregnancy and a healthy baby, I know because I was on meds when I was pregnant with my youngest, Sara. If it is found that the outcome of you needing your meds outweighs the possible problems, they can put you back on your meds.
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chasemanzmum
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« Reply #2 on: March 08, 2009, 11:09:36 AM » |
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I have also sugguested that many times. I either get ok or that ooooooooh ohhhh sob story either way he never goes to any therapy, period.
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« Reply #3 on: March 08, 2009, 02:31:48 PM » |
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marraige councilling does sound like a good option right now ....but that will only work if he actually bothers to attend as you have said before he rarely attends anything that you need him there for.it sounds as if your husband is in some kind of denial of whats going on around him and the inloaws issue really isnt helping the situation.....someone needs to tell them to butt out of your lives to let you breathe.....
i dont know anything about being on meds whilst pregnant but if others have done it safely then maybe that could also be a possibility for you.............you need soemone to be strong for you at this time and ion your side as you have a lot of weight to carry right now....but that baby will be worth it when born and give you endless joy just like your son does now..................try to be strong and hold it together for you not anyone else x
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bound and tied in emotion but still we fly.losing all my reason cause theres nothing left to blame.
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dragonfly
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« Reply #4 on: March 08, 2009, 06:20:21 PM » |
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why do men do this....especially when your faced with so many other problems ,if it was me,i think maybe pack up and have some time on your own to think about whats best for you and your baby,without him around to constantly aggrovate and upset you things may be a little clearer,then maybe if you still have strong feelings for each other the counselling or starting over like dating again might be the way to go,right now though it seems like theirs too much negetive energy floating your way,retreat in strength!!!!!i would
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chasemanzmum
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« Reply #5 on: March 08, 2009, 08:33:24 PM » |
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I did sugguest it to him but it doesn't seem viable. He says he tried talking to me he tried having his dad's girlfriend talk to me. He and his dad's girlfriend also tried yelling at me. I love my husband and my son I just have a funny way of showing it. I never lived out on my own. So I either lived with him or my parents. Running away from my problems is all I ever knew. I need help in learning how to deal with everything on my own. He told me he loves me but he just can't do it anymore. Which I don't know if he wants to break up or what. All I know is his family doesn't want anything to do with me. Which is fine with me cause I don't want anything to do with them either. I told him, "how can i be expected to forge a relationship with my son and my husband if his dad is constantly there" and he's like, "there you go you keep holding shit like that in" which is true cause i am an internalist. i take everything to heart...which totally stresses me out. and i never learned how to relax either.
so i am going to chop all my hair off tomorrow....my way of mourning all that could have been.
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« Reply #6 on: March 08, 2009, 10:51:25 PM » |
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i don't know why your taking it out on your hair,i had a friend who used to love smashing glass,when everything got too much,personally i used to go on a drinking spree and run too,but when i fell pregnant with my first son i wasn't scared anymore,with these fears it's like my panic attacks,the fear of having one makes me have one.it's such a difficult scenario,but being afraid to be on your own may be just the thing you need to prove to yourself that you CAN do anything it would be hard but not impossible..don't be scared especially if your heart and mind are pulling you in that direction,just make sure you have the internet and you'll never be alone.....
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chasemanzmum
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« Reply #7 on: June 14, 2009, 10:36:27 AM » |
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Well we are working things out little by little. and I am almost 29 weeks pregnant. so thee ya go
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« Reply #8 on: June 15, 2009, 09:07:32 AM » |
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he does love u and when he says he just can't do it anymore,he sounds like my husband,but he's still here too and loves me even if he would rather not.we fight heaps but we work stuff out and my 5 boys are learning thats how you make things work,by talking it through and compromising and forgiving/understanding,i'm so glad you tuffing it out,you seem stronger to me than you probably think you are,so do u know if its a boy/girl?i wish i could have another baby,but my hubby had the snip after my 5th and my body couldn't take anymore!! all my boys were huge!!!totally wrecked my body so my husband has to love me,i've told him that,he's ruined me for anyone else.(as a joke)ha ha ha anyway good to hear from you,keep your feet up and enjoy it while you can
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