td420
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« on: July 13, 2010, 04:39:13 PM » |
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I recently suffered an acute manic episode and was hospitalized for two weeks. I've been dx BP1 since 2004, and I thought everything was well under control. I started planning a future with my girlfriend, and we were all set to get engaged and move in together. She has been very supportive but now wants to wait to move in. What is worse is her family now wants her to rethink being with me and to be with someone more "stable." They also told her I am not invited to go on vacation with them as was scheduled for later this month. I keep wondering if they would be acting this was if I told them I had cancer or some other medical condition. Why is there still such a stigma? I'm just so sad because everything was going well and now it seems as if all is in chaos.
~mike, 33 yo, bp1
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« Reply #1 on: July 13, 2010, 04:42:46 PM » |
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stigma sux. i'm sorry you are being faced with it. and you're right, they probably wouldn't have a problem if you had diabetes or something.
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td420
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« Reply #2 on: July 13, 2010, 04:59:53 PM » |
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thanks. i try to remind myself that i didn't choose this illness (who would?) and that i didn't do anything wrong to get it.
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« Reply #3 on: July 13, 2010, 05:32:42 PM » |
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Welcome to the site and sorry about your girlfrieds family not understanding.
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« Reply #4 on: July 14, 2010, 02:58:00 AM » |
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Welcome. I am sorry you are having a bad time. Hugs.
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« Reply #5 on: July 14, 2010, 10:08:44 AM » |
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Stigma is a bitch. As for your GF wanting to wait to move in...I'm sure its hard for her too and you want her to be sure for herself what she wants. As for her family, they sound pretty ignorant.  |
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« Reply #6 on: July 14, 2010, 11:04:13 AM » |
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I understand her wanting to wait to move in - this was a lot for her to handle. I told her about the BP early on, but I don't think anyone can really know what a manic episode can be like until it happens. It has brought us closer, and she feels more confident about stepping in to let me know if she thinks I'm ramping up. I think the main issue for her is my financial stability (I lost my job during the last episode).
As for her parents . . . I do think they're being really ignorant. And, I try not to get angry with her for putting up with some of the stuff they say. She thinks they'll come around, although how can I ever forget them being so obtuse to me?
BTW, I hate this disease.
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« Reply #7 on: July 14, 2010, 01:00:12 PM » |
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« Reply #8 on: July 14, 2010, 02:39:15 PM » |
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hello and welcome
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« Reply #9 on: July 16, 2010, 06:48:33 AM » |
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hi and welcome, xx
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« Reply #10 on: August 11, 2010, 05:42:48 PM » |
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Hi, welcome to the group. Hope to hear more from you..and I too am in hate with being Bp...It blows.
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« Reply #11 on: August 14, 2010, 06:51:52 PM » |
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Yep stigma is still a big problem when it comes to mental health. Maybe they don't understand bp? That could be a little scary for them. Hopefully after a little time and maybe some teaching your gf will come around. Glad to have you here and hope things get better soon.
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« Reply #12 on: October 04, 2010, 10:11:49 AM » |
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Better that your gf know now than later. I was diagnosed until 26 after our first child was born. I had always had symptoms but they were mostly just being hypomanic. I got married at age 21 and my husband was 29. He had no idea what he was in for (actually neither did I) and it has caused us a lot of problems. Then our first child turned out to be bipolar and our third child turned out to have Asperger's among other things. So...in the general scheme of things, the fact that it happened now is probably a good thing. If it brings you closer together that is great and now she knows. It might be good to have a session for you and your gf with your pdoc so things can be explained to her by a professional. Give her a little time, she is probably scared because she does not have enough information and she had never seen you like that. Stay positive and remember no matter what, it is not your fault.
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