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« on: October 07, 2011, 10:14:45 AM » |
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lots going on in my personal life. everyone is changing. trying to deal with it the best I can without falling over the edge. i'm starting to fall, but I keep telling myself it is going to be alright. Afterall, who needs medication? It's horrible stuff. It only makes you sicker. Just eat healthy and everything will be fine. People who do not live with this, have no idea. I know I made no sense what so ever, but it felt pretty good just getting it out. Thanks.
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Kensho
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« Reply #1 on: October 07, 2011, 05:00:21 PM » |
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you made perfect sense Phyllis... and you're right, most people can't relate, they don't know/realize how much of a bitch bipolar(or any mental health disorder) really is... life can be one wicked roller coaster ride at times... i wish you the best of luck being off meds... i hope you can keep it together... your body and mind may come under alot of stress... there are many vitamins, minerals and herbs you could add to your diet that will help lessen symptoms and help you cope better... PeaCe2U Kensho  |
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"it is possible to undergo a profound crisis involving non-ordinary experiences and to perceive it as pathological or psychiatric when in fact it may be more accurately and beneficially defined as a spiritual emergency..." ~~~ Stanislav Grof MD, PhD a passage from "Spiritual Emergency"
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Phyllis
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« Reply #2 on: October 07, 2011, 06:33:39 PM » |
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Been free of meds for a little over a month and it has been better than it has in the past. I just now started getting my junkie itch a couple of days ago. So, I have been taking benedryl twice a day. Apparently my body was so accustomed to having antihistamines pumped into my system on a daily basis (a lot of my meds had antihistamines in them) that my body stopped making it's own.... Had to dip into the emergency stash of ativan today though.... Had a mini-crisis. My oldest daughter hasn't been home for a week. She is apparently shacking up with her boyfriend and his family. Hey, whatever.... she is 18. The reason why she left? Because she can't stand to be around me because we always fight. It's true. We don't get along. She doesn't like me acting like a mom and I don't like her acting like she knows everything.  Got some OMEGA 3 gummies for me and some for the kids. They eat fish, but not enough, so I thought I would start this.... I don't eat fish -- especially shell fish cuz I'm allergic. |
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« Reply #3 on: October 09, 2011, 10:17:59 AM » |
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Sounds like you need s  So wow you really did it? Off all of them? Hey if you feel stressed or down (maybe you are already doing this) but in this cooler weather remember take a walk somewhere nice if you can. It helps me get back on track. I think one day when I am out of this stressful house, keeping a healthy lifestyle and everything, living somewhere serene that I might try going med free...would it work...no fucking idea LOL I think its possible, away from unnatural hectic stuff that triggers me. Hey as long as your daughter is doing ok, maybe that's a good thing for you right now that she is out of the house. Enjoy it while it lasts. Anyway, good luck Phyllis. |
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Paz
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« Reply #4 on: October 15, 2011, 10:08:54 AM » |
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Since your daughter is 18, that means that she is an adult, so treat her like one. Take away her key to YOUR house, she has decided that she doesn't want to live at your home, so she doesn't deserve a key so she can just come back any time she wants to [and cause you stress]. The real adult world doesn't work like that, and if she has decided that she wants to be a REAL adult, well then, she's on her own. By letting her continue to come & go as she pleases is not doing her any favours, in fact you are enabling her to not be responsible. She made her choice, let her live with it. And if she decides that living with her boyfriends' family isn't so great, then she will have to ASK you if she can come home, and if she does, remind her that she is 18 and that you don't HAVE to let her come home......unless she is willing to act like a responsible human being and an adult.
Enabling people doesn't do you or them any favours....it just allows a person to continue on a self destructive path, and they never have to take responsibility for their actions. She needs to grow up or she will never make it in the real world. Harsh but true.
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If you tremble indignation at every injustice then you are a comrade of mine. - Che Guevara
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« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2011, 11:58:55 AM » |
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I was sitting next to Paz and she asked me if her message sounded harsh, it is not meant to be. Anyhow, I don't think so, but I would like to put it another way.
From living with bipolar from the perspective of the passenger, this is my take on things.
A person suffering from Bipolar is greatly affected by stress. If you can create a tranquil environment with very little stress the battle gets a whole lot easier. It is not something that you can just contemplate, you need to make drastic changes in your life in order to simplify things and keep stress (fear) out of your life entirely.
It is important to make a conscious effort to keep life as stress free as possible.
So if your daughter has decided to leave, then the easiest route would be to allow her to make that decision. Give her that freedom and the responsibility that goes with it. By doing that you are suddenly in charge of the situation. You can plan you entire life without wondering what situation you will need to help her out of, essentially inviting stress back into your life.
Let her go and you are in control.
Now, life is different, simpler. You are taking control by not involving yourself, not even renting it space in your head.
Clean up and clean out her room. What will you do with the new space? How can the space be used to make your life easier. Think of it from the perspective of regaining your own power.
Now, your argument is likely, "This is my daughter, I can not just forget about her and not worry."
Absolutely true, every parent wants the very best for every one of their children.
Your daughter is at an age where she needs to become her own person and learn lessons that will take her through her whole life. Every day effects you, some more than others. By doing the same thing your daughter is continuing to experience the same history repeating itself. There is a struggle between you. Give her the gift of her freedom. Allow her to experience what will be a completely new reality for her. It is not up to you to decide what the lessons are that she needs, her new reality will make them very clear.
If your daughter needs to learn, then let her learn.
She will make mistakes, it is because she has not had the chance to realize exactly how her own actions effect her reality.
When she comes back to you for help, listen. Offer any advice or guidance that you can, but only if you want to.
Now give yourself freedom.
Life will be more simple.
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Phyllis
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« Reply #6 on: October 15, 2011, 12:40:45 PM » |
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nah, didn't think she was being harsh. i do appreciate the feedback but it is kinda like a "walk a mile in my shoes" type situation. and i will not truly be "free" from this situation until she graduates as I am still found as being the responsible party in the eyes of the school. I'm getting by....  thanks though. you guys are good friends. |
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Paz
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« Reply #7 on: October 15, 2011, 01:38:41 PM » |
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We Love you, Miz Coffee. We only want to help. Wish we could do more. 
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If you tremble indignation at every injustice then you are a comrade of mine. - Che Guevara
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