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Jennie
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« on: October 15, 2011, 06:09:26 AM » |
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My Mother has Bipolar disorder like me, and she refuses to get treatment for it. I don't know if it's acceptance, she's scared the meds will make her worse, or she thinks it makes her weak. Whatever the case she needs to get treatment. She's in the time period where she's making impulsive actions based on her emotions. Within a few months she left a guy that lead her to nothing but a hard life. He was a bad gambler, cleaned out her bank account a week before rent was due, people he lost bets to came knocking on the door, my mother had to pay of course. The house got robbed twice while, "coincidentally" he was out of town. He was seen selling the electronics that went missing. So she left that got a restraining order, and out of NOWHERE, she became bi and got with a woMAN. with in a few months she checked her emails, he claimed he was framed, that he got a good job, got a house for her and my two sisters to come back. She went running back, and left the woMAN she was with speechless. So my younger sister whose only 9s father was of course concerned. I mean, how would you feel if your kid was not stable, switching schools back to back and having people in and out of their life? So he's hiring an attorney for custody. I spoke to him, and he's not being the bad guy. He's looking for my sister's best interest. He and I came to an agreement that it would be best to leave the lawyers out and just get my Mother to send my sister back here with me, and he would be avidly apart of her life, while my Mother goes and seeks treatment, and when she's better and stable within a year, she can have my sister back. We gave my Mother the ultimatum, and she wouldn't take it. She claims she's fine. So now, they're going to court for the custody battle. She doesn't realize, just her problems alone, affect everyone around her and it's now their problem too. She told me to stay out of it and stop being the mediator, but it's kind of hard when I keep getting sucked into it. I have my sister's father turning to me, and her female ex. Not that I"m complaining, I love helping people. But my point is, she should be the one facing her problems and fixing them, not me. I'm the one her female ex calls for closure that she should have with her. I'm the one speaking rationally to my sister's father about everything. I've come to accept that she won't snap out of this trance until she finally loses my sister and it all..I told her,"Mom, I know you say you're okay, and through all the positive things that come out of your mouth, I hear the pain in your voice. Seeking treatment doesn't mean you're weak. I've just recently gotten treatment, and I feel great. If you get it, we'll all be here for you. I'll be here for you right beside you. We all love you and always will. There's beauty after the pain." She replied with,"I"m fine." She's telling me she's fine, while she's telling her ex she's suicidal and in lockdown. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!
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