I give up

[LadyAshley]

How am I ever going to function normally when I seriously despise the majority of people? I have been attending this depression group for 3 weeks-- it's only 7 in total-- and I walked out without saying anything today because I felt like smashing almost every single person in the group in the face. They are such moronic dimwits who know nothing!!! I know this probably makes me sound like a horrible person but I just can't handle how stupid most people are. Plus, the group is pretty much a rehash of the anxiety group I have been attending and it seems pretty stupid to waste 2 hours of my day on a Wednesday to hear the same crap spewed to me again and again.

I feel annoyed and angry right now.

[Geister]

I feel the same way as you do a lot of the time. It's one of the reasons I won't do group therapy (or at least try not to), aside from not doing well around lots of people. I also hate that just because I am incapable of sitting through a class in school people assume I must be some inarticulate moron who'll be pregnant and living off of welfare in a couple of years. Condescending jerks. :/

Maybe you could find a group of people with the same problems as you online that live close by that you could meet up with instead? It'd be a lot more relaxing if you had friends there working on problems instead of a bunch of idiots. Hope things work out soon and you feel better.

[LadyAshley]

I really liked my anxiety group. The people were nice and I could relate a lot more to them. The depression one, from the first class, I hated. There were only 2 people that were nice, the rest just annoyed me. I almost wish the anxiety group was longer but Monday will be our last class.

I like your suggestion too. I doubt I'd be able to find enough people though. This area is so small and isolated.

[Geister]

Are there any other groups that are going on that you could join instead? It's always so hard finding help in small towns, the hospital I might have to go to is 2 hours away, closest one they could get.

[Phyllis]

I can't stand people myself. (I have the 'everyoone is an idiot but me' complex LOL)
Yesterday was a prime example of why I don't go out in public much.
I went to vote (It was voting day here in the US) and there are rules put in place for voters. One of the stipulations is that you have a photo I.D. if you do not have one, there are other things you can use in place of a photo I.D.

Long story short, this asshat walks in and raises all kinds of hate and discontent about how he should be allowed to vote, he pays taxes and he works and yadda yadda yadda... All the while, holding a utility bill (one of the things you can use in place of a photo ID) "I don't have an ID, I don't need one, I don't drive,..." blah blah blah....

Really? Is this guy really causing a rukkus? See, what made me mad (so much so I didn't look at the jerk because I knew if I did I would have said something) he chose to argue instead of saying "I don't have a photo ID, but I did bring a utility bill with me" -- that would have been so simple! But no, we have to act like an idiot and yell and argue with the poor poll workers.

Ignorance is NOT bliss!

I know this has NOTHING to do with your support group problem, but I just wanted to let you know that we are surrounded by idtios and people we want to just smack with a smart stick in hopes that something will take...

I don't think I could survive a depression support group. It just sounds so.... depressing!  

[LadyAshley]

Unfortunately no Geister. The Yukon has piss poor services. Everything is waiting lists and we only have the one mental health services. We don't even have a Canadian mental health board here. We are the only province or territory in Canada that doesn't have one. It's sad.

I will be going back to the clinician there after my anxiety group officially finishes, so who knows, maybe there will be more she can recommend to me later on but I won't hold my breath. 

GOD YES PHYLLIS!!! That is exactly what I mean, just the excessive ignorance everywhere we turn! That's what I found with this group. And so many of them, god I hate seeing this, were such whiner's. Who thinks I'm a jerk now? *raises hand* 

But they were!!! So many of them just like to hear themselves talk. And all I can think the whole time is "SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!" And then it's just the general ignorance about stuff they think they know about but seriously have no idea. Like one girl started to ask about bipolar.... "well don't depressed people have highs and lows too?" I actually spoke up at that point and said "YEAH BUT IT'S NOT THE SAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MANIA IS A LOT DIFFERENT THAN NORMAL HIGHS!!" 

  Stupid idiots!

[Kensho]

short of periods when i was paranoid being around others, i generally like people until they do something that might turn me off to them... my first psychologist encouraged me to mix it up with others in a group setting... i thought i sounded interesting, so i decided to give it a shot... since i'm schizoaffective i had a choice between a bipolar group or a schizophrenia group in my area... i chose the bipolar group first because i thought i might have more in common with them figuring some of them might have psychotic features... the first meeting was terrible most of the people seemed terrified of me more then i was anxious about being there... they didn't ask me to introduce myself or anything which i thought was kind of strange, but in a way i was relieved... during the meeting they were just so fucking negative about everything, it began to suck the life out of me... does anyone here know what i mean??? energy vampires... finally towards the end of the meeting one guy finally approaches me and introduces himself, we chatted a bit about each others situation before the meeting finally ended... even though the evening overall was shit, i figured i'd returned return because at least one person talked with me.... the following meeting i walked up to the dude to say hi and he was completely standoffish, it didn't take long for me to figure out he was having issues at that time so i just walked away and sat down... i hung out for about a half an hour and in the middle of someone who was talking to the whole group about his knitting hobby, i got up from my chair and walked out the building without saying a word and never returned... in retrospect i now realize the dude was probably having a very tough day.... maybe i should have given it more time for them to accept me in their group... maybe i should have tried to fit in...

my psychologist told me not to not give up and encouraged me to try the schizo group... they were all over me, it was overwhelming at one point... they wanted to know everything about me and were telling me about themselves... oddly not one of them talked about their illness or how hard it was on them like listening to people in the bipolar group... only one person there was eccentric but over time he finally took to me... one interesting thing about schizos that i didn't realize up to that point is they LOVE to smoke weed... and lots of it! a bunch of them would go outside every meeting and smoke some jay... i was invited outside with them almost from the very beginning but never partook up the sacred ganja out of fear i would flip out... every time after they got done smoking they would all rush inside and wipe out all the jelly donuts...  looking back now, i wish i took them up on their offer, i was just so nervous about aggravating my psychosis after reading all the bullshit on the internet... this lasted a little over a year before the project lost county funding... some of us exchanged phone numbers and emails but few of us kept in contact and those that started contact slowly faded away... one woman hung in there... she was very cool, single mom mother of two, very together for a schizo... she called one day to see how i was doing but i was having a tough time, voices and paranoia and refused to accept her call... my wife explained the situation to her... i tried calling her back but she never answered her phone and when the answering machine would pick up she would never return my calls... really strange because she seemed so together... yeah, some schizos can be cool to hang around with... after that i pretty much kept to myself, reading books and surfing the net... i do have friends in real life who come over, i always enjoy that...

Kensho 

[Paz]

  I have never had group therapy, but I have been in a session with 2 Shrinks at once......does that count?

  I can relate, the whole world is full of FOOLS! 

 This is why we have these emoticons! 


 I love all of those emoticons! If any of you discover more funny ones, let me know and I will add them.

 Ashley, there are not enough spankings for all the idiots that we encounter, but this is for all of the ones you had to deal with!

 

[LadyAshley]

  Paz you always get me laughing with the emoticons. 

[LadyAshley]

Interesting experiences Kensho, thanks for sharing.

I do know exactly what you mean about energy vampires. They do just literally suck the energy right out of you. I kind of felt that way about the depression group too. I mean, I know people are depressed, I get that but holy fuck, some people just like to talk way too much. And the funny thing is, this isn't even a talking group! It's a classroom type thing. I find with the anxiety group-- which is along the same lines with the classroom thing-- people don't sit there and whine or anything. They will share their experiences and feelings but then try to be proactive as well.