tell me honestly PLEASE!

[high maintenence]

I understand what you are saying...I AM all those things that you just said, leftover. If you tried to understand, maybe even tried to get her some help, and if you really loved her, you may have worked things out. That's just the thing, you have to really love someone enough to make it through. I've lied, cheated and probably felt like "evil" was my middle name. I still stay up for 4 nights or more and then sleep for 2 entire days. It comes with the illness. If you don't love her enough to say "in sickness and in health" then it's a good thing you didn't do it. You wouldn't have helped her at all, and it sounds like you couldn't handle it.

[Phyllis]

Statistics say that the divorce rate is high with people that have bipolar. Probably with any MI. We have a difficult time dealing with it, so what would we expect from our signifigant others? We have to learn how to deal with it, which as you know takes a lot of time and patience on our end. For some (s.o's) it is easier to just walk away instead of dealing with the ugly beasts that we become. Sometimes they get the feeling that they have to fix you, but they can't, so they feel like they have failed you and then leave (Ironically enough,, because they feel you could do better without them). I don't know if this was the case for leftover or not. But I'm not laying blame on him. Hell, I can't lay blame on anyone that walks out on a relationship with someone with a MI. It can be living hell.

[high maintenence]

I don't blame him either. I can just tell from the post that he couldn't have handled it, so it was best that they didn't say "I do". If the shoe was on the other foot, I don't think I could have put up with my husband. I may have been there for him, but not in the same house and not as an intimate relationship. I ask constantly "why are you stil here"? My mother and my husband continue to insist that if the shoe was on the other foot, I would do the same thing. I tell them that I'm not so sure about that.

[nordicnicki]

my divorce had nothing to do with my illness....but i must admit anyone that i meet and get close to tend to not hang around for too long as they find me hard to cope with and cant understand why i just cant stop myself from behaving as i do.....there has been one person who stays in my life but we just cant seem to get it together,he gets frustrated by not being able to make me better but as i have explained if you can accept all my ups and downs all i need is someone to just be there.......he gives unconditionally,but i think some of my actions remind him too much of when he went through a depression in his younger days.
there are people out there who can stick it out and its usually because of the love that they feel for someone.i accept that hypersexuality is a hard one for any partner to cope with,but then for those who genuinly cant stop themselves its just as hard for that to be coped with by the person behaving like that.
i think that i could be rambling now and not really explaining very well what i was trying to say.

[francie reregistered]

lol Clayton.

I don't know what it's like living with me, i just know i try to stay out of other people's way and not interfere with their space.  My roommate has commented that i don't spend any time with her (something like that).  I also snapped at her one morning, which is unusual for me to do to someone.  She was highly upset about it, but then, she snaps at me quite often.  It's different when she does it, i guess?  I must deserve it.

Yes it makes my blood boil for about 30 seconds, then i stop and think it's not worth the effort to point out to her... then i go on with my day.

My roommate is bipolar 2... she is not that hard to live with.  she can be abrasive and crude, but that's her personality not bipolar disorder... she can change it, she doesn't wanna! 

So, i let her be like that since she likes it so well.     I can tell when she's on a down-swing, just by looking at her face.  I can also tell when she invents her depression over some trivial thing... because it happens all the time, and she says it's bipolar disorder, i say it's behaving like a spoiled brat who doesn't appreciate anything.  There is a huge difference between her chemical imbalances and the drama over spilt milk.

She will do things like ask me a question, and then when i give the response tell me i have answered "wrong".  Ok whatever.  Last time my answer to her question didn't suit her, i said, "if you didn't like my response, stop asking me questions... it's not that hard."  guess what?  now my answers are accepted.

She also advertises her bipolar disorder to anyone who will listen.  And every mess she creates is because she's bipolar.    Ok, we will let her think so.

Frankly, i think she has a personality disorder too.... but that is something she has to take care of. I'm not her doctor, just her friend.  and i AM her friend.  i care for her quite a lot, and just want the best for her, even if she likes drama and theatrics.   I have an ignore button, and i can overlook this junk... because that's what it is.. junk!

I'm her only friend.