Need advice

[ray38]

 I have a 16 yr old niece who is a little bitch to put it nicely. She has all the classic signs of bp but her pdoc says its just normal kids stuff that she does. She is on a med but refuses to take it. Everytime we have a family gathering she ruins it for someone or all of the ppl there. My mom sees it happening but doesn't want to interfere. My dad doesn't see anything wrong and her mom takes up for her come hell or high water. Christmas Eve party at my moms her wrath was on my 14 yr old son at first and she fad him in tears at one point. After that she stomped around the house and let everyone know that she was miffed about something. She finally secluded herself to pout, which was fine with me. When we opened gifts, we called her name and she stomped in, snatched the gift out of the 3yr olds hand and stomped out and didn't say a word. Of course the 3 yr old was to the point of tears but she was a big girl and didn't cry altough it hurt her feelings.  Fifteen min later my niece came in and sat on her moms lap like nothing had ever happened. She still didn't speak to anyone but her mom,but she was fine, just as happy as she could be. Today all Will be right with the world in her eyes, and she will be manic. Happens everytime.
  My point is that I am fed up with her behavior and last night was absolutely inexcusable. I'm gonna address this problem child to someone shes either gonna start behaving or my kids don't want to be where she is. If I talk to my sister it will start a huge fight. If I talk to my mom, I will put her in the middle and thats not fair to my mom, and my stepdad just wont talk about it. I dint know what to do but something has to be done. This has been going on for years and its time for it stop...............Ray

[Phyllis]

As uncomfortable as it will be, you have to address this matter to your sister. She might not see what her daughter is doing. Yes, you will probably fuel a fire by bringing this up to your sister, but I agree with you, something needs to be done. Let your sister know that you just don't feel comfortable with your kids being around her daughter at this time. I know it is going to be difficult, but I imagine one more straw is going to break your back. And you want to say something before you let your emotions take hold. Just my 2 cents worth.

[ray38]

 lol Thats almost exactly what my wife told me. Must be pretty sound advice...Thanks,
                                                                                                                    Ray

[donna14]

We had a similar situation in our family.  The best way for me to handle it was to just stay away from the offending family member.  I have been doing that for five years now and it has worked great.  I don't go to family functions that I know will be a problem.  Eventually everyone got the point and we get along fine with everyone else.  The person involved refuses to see that she has a problem so we just stay away. 

Donna

[clayton]

This darling child has to take her meds! She is a child, and cannot refuse! I think that would improve things a great deal. You have to get up the courage to talk to the parent in charge of that, and otherwise not go to any family function where this child is involved. Try to be sweet and reasonable.

Clayton

[ray38]

 Thanks for the advice. I will keep you all posted on what happens next on this situation.
         Ray