how do you get rid of emotinal pain(can a therapist help)?

[sojo]

 Hi, my name is sojo.I have been learning a lot lately. I don't tell people I am bipolar anymore.The fact is that Ihave already done that with my neighbora whle back .I heard it through someone else that here and her family talks about me all the time plus they said that I like to go shopping every day. I can't stand people who call themselves Chtistians and are mean people. My question is would therapy help me to deal with this pain? I am open to any idea as strange as it may sound. I feel like I' feel like I am in the midst of evil . I though about taking a self esteem coarse also. I know prayer helps too. I don't attend church very often but if anyone may have a qoute or something ,it would be most welcomed. I would like to hear how others deal with this kind of pain and how they get rid of it...Thankyou,sojo (My gut instinct is that they are not saying anything nice)

[Phyllis]

Yes, Sojo - going to therapy can help, but only if you are open to it. I am sorry I can't quote you any scripture, as I do not know my Bible all that well. I hope you find the solace you are looking for soon.

[nordicnicki]

emotional pain is a hard one to answer...we each have many different ways to deal with it.
sometimes that pain isnt really there at all and just paranoia(at least it often is with me)
talking helps some people by getting some of it out of their heads...me i just shut down and get consumed by it,then a smile from a child or a hug from my kids wakes from it and i see that i cant change the things that make me feel this way and i have learnt that it is part of me that i have to live with the best that i can

[clayton]

John 17;3--"And this is life eternal, that they might know thee, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom thou hast sent.". So knowledge of God is our eternal life, not some paradaisical condition after death. I was just thinking of posting about the Inner Therapist when I cam across your post here. God in the Heart, the Higher Self. Higher Power, etc. etc.is always witnessing what we are doing, and will "talk" to us, although not in words. We can go inward and find Him--there are some very specific descriptions--I have been through a lot of therapy with the inner therapist--the worst parts were so many negative suggestions put on my by my "father"--I had to dump him and accept my spiritual father as my real father--and that solved all that. God is not up in the sky--He is in the heart, and He will help you from there in ways you will not expect.

[sojo]

Thankyou Phyils,you have ctually given me hope. ,sojo

[sojo]

Thankyou Nordicnicki,I know for sure its not paronoia but I am glad to know that a hug can help,sojo.Thankyou for your support,sojo

[sojo]

Thankyou Clayton,what you said kind of makes me think,why sweat the small stuuff in life and just keep looking at a bigger overall picture.Thankyou so much for your support.,sojo

[sojo]

I am sorry for the typo errors.let me rephrase this .Phyllis.I will feel so much better knowing that a therapist can help.I am going to get help very soon .As soon as I can.I am going to have a nice day today thanks to everyone's support here,sojo.I don't feel sad today :'(Instead I feel like I can get through my day

[Phyllis]

I am going to have a nice day today thanks to everyone's support here,sojo.I don't feel sad today :'(Instead I feel like I can get through my day

YAY!  That is what we are here for, hun!

[sojo]

Thanks Phylliss,I  wanna send you a great big hug! ;)I  had  a great day and I think you guys helped it to be great.I got bad haircut though but the day was just wonderful.I love this site! ,I am getting therapy as soon as soon  as possible. Thankyou also Phyllis for helping me to see that a thrapist is someone you don't have to be afraid of.Bye now,sojo

[k]

sojo, i thnk you got the affirmation you needed for getting a therapist already but i wanted to add that i too am a strong beliver in therpists. you get to see your pdoc for such a small amount of time. usually you get to see a therapist for 45-55 min at a time on a weekly basis and so they can get a better understanding for your situation and help you with emotions and planning and strategies for getting by. sometimes you might have to try out a few before you find one you click with so don't be discouraged if you don't find someone you like right off the bat. it's okay to interview them and see what theire style is and if you can make a connection.  i owe everything to my therapist and we've been together now for 12 years. - and my therapist helps me streamline what i need to talk to the pdoc about so i make use of my limited time with him.  good luck!

[sojo]

Hi thankyou for giving me inspiration.I will see a therapist soon.I loved your poem and you artwork.sojo

[high maintenence]

It seems like I'm always the negative one, but here it goes..I've only seen one therapist and I saw her twice. I hated that bitch. She made me feel so low about myself that I could barely see to drive home, I was sobbing so badly..I haven't tried again. I imagine there are good ones.

I am a Christian and can tell you firsthand that most Christians are judgemental and they are taught not to be, but most are mean and hateful, and very very worldly, only concerned about their nice suits, ties and cars. This is not what the bible teaches and Clayton, God does not expect all of the expectations that you think he does. He provided blood from Christ to wash away those sins that we commit due to the evil in this world (provided by the almost as powerful, Satan). All God expects is for you to believe in him. The bible is just more or less, an instruction booklet on how to handle situations to improve your life. He sends you down lives paths in a safe way if you obey his words in "The Book", but knows that we will stray from the path. He has already forgiven all of us of our sins by the blood of Jesus Christ as long as we except the fact that he is our Saviour. I have not been attending our church lately which automatically has given the congregation the conclusion that I am not "saved", which of course is not so. I am very much a believer in the Lord, but I can't even seem to pray anymore b/c of the racing thoughts. The devil is definitely involved in my praying, or lack of. My church family doesn't understand my illness, nor do they try. Someone has said on here before that it isn't up to others to learn about our illness, but I feel differently. I feel that if you love someone, the way my church family claim to love me, then why not try to understand me. If they were dying of cancer, I would understand. I know exactly how cancer works and how it effects your life. Why should they not educate themselves instead of just continuing to gossip about me. My husband and children go to church, and people are beginning to be quite rude about the fact that I am not there to perform my "duties" as a member of the church...I say "kiss my Christian ass".

[high maintenence]

I get rid of my emotional pain by cutting, or with rage. Either way, it hurts my family, but I feel the cutting doesn't make them feel like I'm a bitch, instead it shows that I am MI, which is better than being a bitch in my eyes. Neither of course, is the correct way to deal with the pain, but I've yet to find another way to control it.

[Phyllis]

I get rid of my emotional pain by cutting, or with rage. Either way, it hurts my family, but I feel the cutting doesn't make them feel like I'm a bitch, instead it shows that I am MI, which is better than being a bitch in my eyes. Neither of course, is the correct way to deal with the pain, but I've yet to find another way to control it.

I can totally understand that. It is difficult to find that same kind of release by doing something else.